For Real?

Okay, I have been using an online dating website for awhile, and this is an actual message I got today:

u r beautiful and i just looked your tag to check if you were born in haven

This pretty much exemplifies almost everything that I hate about most of the messages I receive. First of all, this guy uses "textese," which I do acknowledge that most people use, but if you are trying to meet people, don't do that in an email, or letter. Spell things out, people. This just makes you look uneducated. Also, he uses a cliche pick-up line. I will not respond to that. Ever. Don't do that. Third, he misspells "heaven." Check your spelling. I understand typos here or there, but somehow I don't think this was one.

This message shows no effort to get to know me at all.

Don't you people read advice columns? Find something we have in common. Make a comment about it. Ask a question. Questions are the basis for most conversations you have when you are trying to get to know someone. Can't think of anything? Borrow a question from the Proust Questionnaire. There are some great conversation starters there. Seriously. Otherwise, just don't write.

I am personally looking for someone with intelligence. The person above might be intelligent, but my perception based on this message is that he's not really all that smart, or willing to get to know me.

I believe that art of conversation is dying. Let's revive it.

Thanks for reading.

/rant

Coming home

I really had a great vacation, it seemed almost too long toward the end. I was looking forward to coming back to Texas. But it is the third day I have been home, and I got really lonely. And I am sad tonight, and can't sleep. I am really going to struggle with the tiredness tomorrow.